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July 7th, 2010

dress code whine @ 01:00 pm

Current Mood: worried worried

Feeling really down today, nervous and uber self-conscious since I found a printout of the company's dress policy in my inbox this morning. No clue whether everybody got them or if it's just me. Nobody's said anything, but I can't help but wonder if they're hinting at something I'm doing wrong. Anyway, I just need to whine and (hopefully) get it out of my system so I can get over it and move on.

My clothing options have been limited by both my size and funds. Women's 10WW shoes (double wide), 5x shirts & pants, all had to be special ordered as nowhere in town carries anything big enough to fit me. I've had the same pair of white sneakers 4+ years now, no holes or rips but they're kinda scruffy looking. Code says no sneakers, supposed to be black or brown dress shoes, at the time these were the only color/style available that fit. (Special from a New Balance shop, they were around $120 back then which took forever to save up for, but like I said I've been wearing them a few years now. I had been getting affordable ~$30 shoes from Walmart before that but they were always tight and only lasted a few months before my big feet ripped the side loose from the sole.)

I ordered a week's worth of pants & shirts with our tax refund this year, now I'm wondering if the tops are too close to T-shirts (also on the forbidden list) but again, it's all I could find that fit in my price range. If the shirts are a problem - and nobody's said they are - I can't afford to replace them again.

They've got a company that sells non-skid work shoes through payroll deduction here, according to their online chat support they don't carry double-wide womens but they've got a couple of unisex styles in men's wide that 'should' be equivalent to a ladies double wide 1 1/2 sizes smaller. HR guy's running all over the building so his office is locked, I've emailed him to ask about the shoes. And I found my nametag (which I usually forget to wear), it's magnetic and had gotten stuck to the inside of the safe some time when I bent over to empty it.

Seriously, if I'm doing something wrong, someone please pull me aside and let me know so I can fix it. I've got a lot of autistic tendencies, I don't have the same understanding of social norms most folks assume everyone knows.
 
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From:colorwhirl
Date:July 7th, 2010 05:57 pm (UTC)
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You got a reminder of the dress code. It doesn't much matter if everyone else got it or not; it's a good time to check and see how you stand next to the dress code. Perhaps the HR dude intends to remind everyone of the dress code every six months. Don't take it personally, but use it as a benchmark instead.

As for shoes, you should cruise Zappos to see if there are offerings for you. From a quick search, these loafers look promising. (And comfortable. I've worn Hush Puppies before, and they are nice shoes.) Another brand that you should consider is Rockports. My father lived in them, and they are really comfortable shoes. This style comes in your size and width, plus they would probably last 5 years with basic leather care (don't get them too wet and polish them every 6 months).

Rockports are worth saving up for, and Zappos offers free shipping both ways so you can try different sizes and exchange them without hurting your budget.
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From:starsongky
Date:July 7th, 2010 07:25 pm (UTC)
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I've already ordered a pair through the program at work, hopefully they'll do until I can save up for something from Zappos. Free shipping both ways is a huge plus, thanks for the tip.
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From:sarakate
Date:July 8th, 2010 12:30 am (UTC)
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In general men's shoes are more durable for the same price point, and you're definitely going to find a better selection of men's wide, which is relatively common, than women's double wide; since you're a size that translates to a common men's size, I'd suggest always looking first at the selection of men's shoes when you're looking for a style that's fairly unisex. Lace-up dress shoes or loafers both make a perfectly acceptable women's style, so you ought to be able to get into a price point you can handle by going this way, and still get a decent quality product.
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From:stickmaker
Date:July 8th, 2010 02:09 am (UTC)
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Ditto on Zappos and Rockports.

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From:stickmaker
Date:July 8th, 2010 03:24 am (UTC)
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Actually, if they have your size, Amazon might be cheaper for the same shoe.

Sorry to be so late with this, but I only just learned it while shopping for some New Balance walking shoes, myself.
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From:bkmichele
Date:July 7th, 2010 08:36 pm (UTC)
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I keep waiting for the day I'm told to slap on a full business suit & I get to demand a clothing allowance. That or when someone finally tells me to quit wearing low cut shirts. But they're the only thing that fits. Button downs are terrible because they come apart at the bust so I do a lot of v neck and open polo type shirts.
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From:scubagrrl
Date:July 7th, 2010 10:54 pm (UTC)
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Could be directed at anybody or nobody. Doesn't mean it's you. Your HR person could tell you how you stand in regard to the policy.

The last time I worked in an office, this kind of reminder was directed at the women who (now that we're coming into summer time) wanted to wear short skirts and very low-cut or sleeveless shirts. Revealing stuff, not appropriate for an office environment.
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From:roina_arwen
Date:July 9th, 2010 02:12 am (UTC)
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You're my height, aren't you? Around 5'? And you wear size 10 shoes?? Your feet don't seem that big to me - I typically wear a 6.5 or 7.

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