The pattern's driving me nuts, I've already had to start over twice and still plan on trying it again. I made the mistake of venting my frustration on the list. I kept it clean, no dirty words though I've certainly been muttering them a lot lately, just "Ugh, I've had it with this thing." It got me a note from the listmod saying that if I ever vented on-list again I'd get unsubbed without notice and banned for it.
Apparently "no flaming" means don't post anything negative at all.
If all they want is a mutual feel-good party, I'm not so sure I want to knit along with them any more.